Comments on: Dismissed

By: Traci P

Traci P — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 06:26:23 +0000

I just wanted to commend you on the bravery of this post, and the long distances you have traveled to gain such a perspective.

By: Tom Thumb

Tom Thumb — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 13:43:51 +0000

You are a brave person to tell your story so publicly. I am much more the other way of extreme shyness. My father and your mother would be bookends, identical.

By: Jennie

Jennie — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 00:02:11 +0000

Dear Alda

There are so many parts of the story that are parallels to my life but you are much braver than me. My mother is incapable of expressing her feelings. I was raised by my extended family and even to this day feel abandoned. However I have gotten enough therapy now to know that I will not change her anymore. I vow to not be like her and in many ways I have succeeded with my own children. However there are some days where I can be pretty messed up thinking about all those missed hugs and shows of love.

This is my first time on your blog and I enjoy it a lot. Keep it up. You are great.

By: Daphne

Daphne — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 09:52:36 +0000

I’m from Leeds in the North of England. I’ve just found your blog and have been really enjoying it and this piece about your childhood was both gripping and horrifying. I’ve bookmarked your blog and I’ll be back, thank you. I have always wanted to visit Iceland but Britain’s doing a pretty good imitation of it at the moment!

By: KB

KB — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 00:54:49 +0000

Alda,
I´m speachless…
I really admire you, your perseverance and your warm heart.
Thanks for sharing your story!
Love.

By: Martin

Martin — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 10:29:56 +0000

Hæ Alda,

I found your blog by chance as I’m always looking for more infos about Iceland since I became addicted in 2004 when I first visited your country.

Your story is really sad and I can imagine pretty well what it felt like (and probably still does on some occasions). Destroying a child’s self-confidence is probably the worst thing parents can do. It’s a great achievement that you survived this and lead a normal life now and, most importantly, don’t pass the “lessons your learned from your parents” on to the next generation. You can really be proud of yourself.

Bless,

Martin

By: Lindsay

Lindsay — Sun, 07 Jun 2009 19:23:37 +0000

hello dear Alda,

i have just recently began exploring your blog, and to locate this post has given your blog an entirely new depth now that i know that you have been steeped in nothing but perseverance.

i am a Canadian living in Canada, although i lived for a short time (4 months) in Iceland to study and work last winter. In spite of the time (and money!!!!) spent there, Iceland still exists in a very lofty realm for me. your blog helps bring it all down to a level that is tangible for me, and i enjoy it very much.

By: Joan

Joan — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 18:39:39 +0000

Thank you Alda for sharing with us, I am so sorry for what you went through. I went through something similar. An interesting question to ask is what is the relationship with the sister? Is she honorable and does she offer you a part of “her” inheritance, which is rightfully partially yours?

My parents are getting ready to bequeath EVERYTHING to my brother. Does he think he will have a normal relationship with me afterwards, if he doesn’t at least offer a part of it to me his sister? If the situation had been reversed, I would have done that. but I guess in our world, money is more important than anything.

By: Jacqueline

Jacqueline — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 23:52:11 +0000

*hug*

By: Jón

Jón — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 00:36:43 +0000

Alda, can you explain this better:

“He was also obsessively controlling – the ‘little secrets’ that were the real reasons for his tyranny were exposed many years later – and he despised me.
“